Questioning the process

I have made a vow to myself. Well maybe it is better to call it a reminder? Or a half year resolution? I hate to use such permanent words as promise and vow. If I have learned anything at all in the last few months, it is that there is nothing permanent about this world.

In fact the way we are taught to view the world is completely wrong. We are force fed this idea of processes and steps. One foot in front of the other type of thinking. This is not wrong for everyone, but when from day 1 we are expected to meet certain stepping stones aligned with certain ages.

Walking at 18 months

Preschool at 3

Elementary School

Middle School

High School

College

First Job

Get Married

Have Kids

Move up in your career

etc …

There are sublevels of steps within each of these expected life events. Now there will be variations in this list – obviously. But what if life was not supposed to be lived where we are expected to follow any of this. What if we took it as an adventure, full discovery? What if this is all in the wrong order?

I’m not saying any of this needs to be changed. All I think is that we need to ask ourselves the whys to own our life. If I cannot explain why I am going to college, then why am I going at all?

This is the kind of things we need to be asking ourselves everyday. Why am I eating this food? Why am I watching this TV show? What is all of this doing for me, and what am I gaining from this? Break it all down. Fill in the blank. If we are not actively choosing, we choose to be slaves to an unconscious life.

If you consider the important points of your life, the key moments are made when you pose and answer a question. Marriage, careers, getting healthy. It all starts with questioning your current and future states, and if you are willing to alter it.

So what is that resolution I mentioned in the introduction? It is to ask myself why. To be bold enough to ask it of myself, of others, all day, every day. I know this may be out of the norm to ask of anyone, but that is in fact all it is – out of the social norm. Time to trade in the series of steps and processes, for the messy jumble of questions and see where it takes us.

 

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