Questioning the process

I have made a vow to myself. Well maybe it is better to call it a reminder? Or a half year resolution? I hate to use such permanent words as promise and vow. If I have learned anything at all in the last few months, it is that there is nothing permanent about this world.

In fact the way we are taught to view the world is completely wrong. We are force fed this idea of processes and steps. One foot in front of the other type of thinking. This is not wrong for everyone, but when from day 1 we are expected to meet certain stepping stones aligned with certain ages.

Walking at 18 months

Preschool at 3

Elementary School

Middle School

High School

College

First Job

Get Married

Have Kids

Move up in your career

etc …

There are sublevels of steps within each of these expected life events. Now there will be variations in this list – obviously. But what if life was not supposed to be lived where we are expected to follow any of this. What if we took it as an adventure, full discovery? What if this is all in the wrong order?

I’m not saying any of this needs to be changed. All I think is that we need to ask ourselves the whys to own our life. If I cannot explain why I am going to college, then why am I going at all?

This is the kind of things we need to be asking ourselves everyday. Why am I eating this food? Why am I watching this TV show? What is all of this doing for me, and what am I gaining from this? Break it all down. Fill in the blank. If we are not actively choosing, we choose to be slaves to an unconscious life.

If you consider the important points of your life, the key moments are made when you pose and answer a question. Marriage, careers, getting healthy. It all starts with questioning your current and future states, and if you are willing to alter it.

So what is that resolution I mentioned in the introduction? It is to ask myself why. To be bold enough to ask it of myself, of others, all day, every day. I know this may be out of the norm to ask of anyone, but that is in fact all it is – out of the social norm. Time to trade in the series of steps and processes, for the messy jumble of questions and see where it takes us.

 

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March update

So I have been using my Passion Planner for two months now and I have made discoveries and breakthroughs.

I think it is easy to set all of these goals, but when it comes to carrying goals out, there is no one golden formula that makes it easy for everyone. Some people need hard set dates, others don’t, some need it broken down into steps, so need a general guidance.

I had the opportunity to write about my life plan and how I am approaching not only the next five years but also my life goals. While spending time looking both backwards and forwards I saw why certain goals have stuck and why some have not. The ones that I approach with freedom to be flexible are the ones that work. The difference is grace.

When I give myself room for grace I am not looking up at a treasure on a pedestal instead I am looking down a winding road that has wonderful joy along the way. There are times to wander of the main road and times for a sprint straight for my goal. The thing is that we are human, we change every second, we are not the same person as we were yesterday and as we will be tomorrow, so why set goals for ourselves that don’t allow those changes.

So I set a focus for each month and work on that. I attempt to make improvements not finishing goals, but that from day 1 to day 31 I have grown in some way. So here I am, working out 3x a week and not just wimpy workouts, I sweat, I WERK. I meal prep on weeks I am stressed and have now easily limited my eating out to social functions. I read books and limit TV intake.

This doesn’t mean I will ever fall off course, and never did in the last two months. I did. But I found the discipline in me to get back up. It all started by setting a foundation of routine in my life of getting up and praying. If I have discipline to seek God and put Him as  the bedrock to my life, then discipline in any other area is nothing!

Good luck to all of you as you seek to meander your way to a goal along with me!